In my job, one of the main reasons people claim bankruptcy or a Consumer Proposal is due to relationship breakdown. Yesterday, I spoke with a poor client who was beaten up by her spouse and she ended up in the hospital for 5 days where the cops came and charged her with abuse! To get away from the bastard, she bit his arm and he charged her. She moved out, but is living in her car with her 2 children waiting to get into a women’s shelter. She has retained legal aid and, to place icing on the cake, the doctors found out her cancer has returned with a cyst on her liver.
One of my closest friends is going through a separation and, eventually, divorce after 20 years.mi was her maid of honour and am surprised they lasted this long. She deserves better but she really tried, so hard, to make the marriage work with a man who is narcissistic plus has emotional issues. This made me think about songs regarding relationship breakdowns which is my own theme, this week over at Monday Music Moves Me and here we go..
1. WOULD I LIE TO YOU SUNG BY THE EURYTHEMICS -1985
I love this song by the Eurythmics about a woman who finds out her spouse is cheating on her. Annie Lennox sings her heart out as always. I saw them, at Canada’s Wonderland and, when she came out from behind the curtain singing this song in her black leather pants and a red bra, it brought the house down. One of the best concerts I have seen.
2. HIT ME WITH YOUR BEST SHOT SUNG BY PAT BENATAR-1980
Pat Benatar is an electrying singer with a pull no punches voice who often sang about women who have been abused or struggled in life but overcome all obstacles to become empowered and rise above their hardships. Pat Benatar actually was trained as a classically trained opera singer! My one friend loves her and has been to every concert she has been to when she was in Toronto.
2. PERSONAL JESUS SUNG BY DEPECHE MODE-1990
I love this song due to that constant beat which just, I find, primitive for some reason. They wrote this song after reading the book, “Elvis and Me” by Pricilla Pressley. How many people end up in a rebound relationship thinking the person they are now seeing is saving them when, in fact, they are often jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Other times, we have someone in our life, that is their own Jesus who truly, is there for their friend or, in some cases, their lover who is true.
What songs do you think of when thinking of divorce or relationship breakdowns?
No More Tears (Enough is Enough). https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QsY066wa08E&pp=0gcJCdgAo7VqN5tD
ReplyDeleteAnd 30 years later I am still living in the house he left!
Hahahaa…good for you! That’s. Great song.
DeleteSo rough... But it's true. Real happiness and success comes from the relationships in our lives.
ReplyDeleteYes, sometimes our soul mate is not our partner but our best friend.
DeleteThat poor woman! I hope that case goes nowhere. Love, love, love Annie Lennox who is as fabulous as ever at 70.
ReplyDeleteYes, and I hope she is ok. I sent an email but have not heard anything. I hope she finds a place to stay
DeleteSuch a sad story about your client! And I hope your friend will survive and thrive after her divorce. We are obviously the lucky ones, having just celebrated our 52nd anniversary.
ReplyDeletePerfect song choices and I like the last one especially, for the reasons you mentioned. There's just something about that beat! ☺ Interesting tidbit about Pat Benatar training to be an opera singer! Here's a fun one from Miley Cyrus, called F.U.
That’s a good song and I agree with it. Lol I should have known this song when I was younger. I am so very happy for you and you husband because you reached a milestone many wish they could. I have seen some reach that plus more but the marriage was not good and that includes my Oma and Opa. She only knew my grandfather and that was it. HE didn’t treat her well at all and, if they were young today, their marriage would not have survived.
DeleteYour client's story just makes me cringe. That husband, if you can call him that, is despicable. I hope she can get an attorney to sue him for everything he has and doesn't have. All I will say is jail time is too good for him unless every single day he is in there, he is treated just as awful as he treated his wife then justice will be served. I will keep her in prayer that she and her children can get into a good shelter, and that she can receive treatment for the cancer soon.
ReplyDeleteYou picked some fabulous songs for your theme. Have a boogietastic week, Birgit! xo
She did retain a lawyer through Legal Aid which is good.. I’m glad you like the songs
DeleteWhat Cathy said. So tragic. Your playlist was excellent, all songs I love.
ReplyDeleteIt’s tragic and all too common. Glad you like the songs.
DeleteBoth of those - that's awful! Did the woman also file abuse charges against him? Because she should.
ReplyDeleteCold Fire by Rush! Read the lyrics. That is one bad, messed up relationship.
Those lyrics can hit home. And I have experienced this as has many people I know. She said she was going to file charges but we shall see. Many women go back to their abuser…it’s a sad state.
DeleteYou really get to see the horrible, don't you? Yikes.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I have people who committed suicide and I have had people who were to be murdered by their spouse. I have seen plenty of elder abuse as well which is disgusting.
DeleteHi Birgit - life, particularly for women (not always though), can be dreadful. Songs set things out there've been a couple - but I can't think of them now! Life ... cheers Hilary
ReplyDeleteThere are so many who are abused and we just don’t know they are staying with these peoplelkk
DeleteEven though I'm on my third wife (not literally...although...), I have to admit to have been lucky with my relationships. Although, I did date a real moonshot once (still, she was great in b...uh...never mind).
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