My dear friend hates confrontation and wants nothing but the best for most people so it took a lot to finally speak up to her ugly husband and say a separation is what is needed. Almost a year went by, still living in the same household but living separate lives, when they each sign the separation agreement. She is meeting up with friends she hasn’t seen in years but her mentally unstable soon to be ex husband wonders why she won’t cook for him and perform her “wifely duties.” Yup, he actually said that to her. She had to remind him that they are officially separated for over a year but when he found out that she reconnected with an old boyfriend, his temper went through the roof!! This past Sunday, she called me terrified as I heard him scream at her calling her everything disgusting you can think of. She told me he spat on her and I was scared for her so I called the police. He told me I was a disgusting old looking bitch and told me the info the cops needed. When I got to the house, the cops were there and he was full of anger making himself sound like he was the hurt party. He told me off and said that I’m not welcome and he will charge me with trespassing but the cops told him it is a matrimonial home and I am welcome if his wife wants me there which she does. I just was smiling as he ranted like a nutbar, and then I yawned. I got my friend to come with me ( and the cops told her it is in her best interest to be away from him) and brought her to her mom’s place. She ended up throwing up and throwing up…the poor thing, but, I think, she needed this to find her strength. He has been emotionally and mentally abusive to her for years and she finally is breaking free. I don’t like her staying there but she does have a lock on her bedroom door and yesterday and today, her sister was with her. Thankfully, he signed the form in order to sell the house and now we shall see how things go. I went on and on. I am showcasing 3 songs for her and am part of the Monday Music Moves Me where it is freebie week.
1. YOU’LL NEVER WALK ALONE SUNG BY KATHERINE JENKINS-2016
Here is an iconic disco song about women who think they can never do it, whatever it is. She sings this with such conviction and fun. I love this song and hope it does right by my friend. She is beautiful and hope my friend knows she will triumph.
Hi, Birgit!
ReplyDeleteThat is a volatile situation. Angry rants are one thing, but I hope your friend and her estranged husband can get through this dangerous period without actual violence erupting. As much as it worries me that you are at risk simply because you are so close to your friend, I admire you for being there to support and assist her. Please proceed with caution, dear friend, and keep us posted.
I enjoyed your musical menu, Birgit. Whenever I hear a rendition of "You'll Never Walk Alone," I am reminded of the Jerry Lewis MDA telethons that were televised year after year - must see events that were anticipated as much as the Miss America Pageant. At the conclusion of the telethon broadcast each year, Jerry would tearfully sing "You'll Never Walk Alone," often breaking down in the middle of the performance. I also remember the song being released as s single in December, 1963, by Patti LaBelle And The Bluebelles.
"Respect" was a biggie at the Shady Dell, and "Survive" was a biggie during my second stint as a bachelor during which I earned a reputation as a womanizing "lounge lizard."
Living in the USA in 2025 and dealing with everything currently going on, the first song that comes to my mind is the defiant pop metal anthem "We're Not Gonna Take It" by Twisted Sister.
We're not gonna take it
No, we ain't gonna take it
We're not gonna take it anymore
I'm back and kicking-off Shadyween at Shady's Place. Hope you can swing by at some point. I'll be here tomorrow sitting in the balcony and waiting for you-- "At The Movies!" Have a wonderful Wednesday, dear friend BB!
Wow, she has got to get away from him. Can't believe they were still living in the same house. Be strong for her, Birgit.
ReplyDeleteYour friend is in a precarious situation and it's so good of you to get involved. I'm sure she appreciates it, and I hope there's a positive outcome. ♥ Excellent song choices!
ReplyDeleteHow scary and terrible. Those kinds of people don't change, so I'm happy to hear she's getting out. Of course, now's the most dangerous time. That kind person could do something terrible now that she's actually leaving him.
ReplyDeleteThankful your friend had a friend like you, one knowledgeable in how to act and provide help. I've read that the most dangerous time for the abused person in the couple is when he or she is trying to leave the relationship and I hope so much she doesn't go back to him. The playlist was perfect.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to your friend. I hope she gets away safely. Great songs, all of them.
ReplyDeleteThat situation is very frightening. You are a good friend, Birgit. I hope she'll be okay. She shouldn't ever be alone with him. He sounds as if he's capable of doing even worse things to her. Your song choices are excellent.
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Janie
Thank you for all your very kind comments. It was calm but the last couple of days have been horrible. The 2 girls played a vicious prank on her taking her away from an important meeting. They just laughed and said she doesn’t know how to take a joke. I think I convinced her to take all her stuff out of there and she is getting a storage locker. He has been taking a lot of her stuff which is just so sad and stupid.
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